…self-sabotage holds us back from growth. Can you remember a time where you were in relationship with someone, or even just exploring a potential connection, things were going well, but at the first signs of challenge, opposing beliefs, or conflict, you fled-

the classic “fuck this I’m not dealing with this shit”.

Much of what makes sex “good” is whether we are fully there to experience it. The thought of hot, steamy, passionate sex has often been the main stimulus for me, even above the physical experience of sex itself, because it didn’t require the presence, openness, and vulnerability needed to be inside of that moment with a partner. It is easier to be inside of our imagination and fantasy than to be in raw reality with another person.

Eroticism wants us to surrender into play- something as adults we are programmed out of as we ‘mature’ and assimilate into the busyness and stoicism of modern life. When expressed in a safe and consensual setting with a committed partner, sexual eroticism is an avenue that can reconnect us with our child-like divinity.

Commitment asks of our highest intelligence, our sensual engagement, our keen ability to transmute and transform, to stand bare fleshed in front of beauty and truth.